Dear God, Why Can’t I Have a Baby?
One in six couples suffer with infertility, feeling ostracized and alone.
“Too make matters worse,” says Janet Thompson, “few churches offer support groups to counsel this large overlooked group.”
After surgery for a ruptured ovarian cyst at age twenty-one and newly engaged, the doctor told Janet that her ovaries were cystic and looked like those of a 90-year-old woman. “Sorry, you’ll never be able to have children.”
Three years into marriage, Janet was miraculously pregnant with her daughter Kim!
Still, Janet couldn’t shake the worry that maybe Kim would have trouble getting pregnant too. Years later, her fears proved true. All of Kim’s infertility treatments failed. Meanwhile, Janet’s stepdaughter Shannon had also been trying to get pregnant for seven years. Janet watched both couples go through the same pain, frustration, and anguish she had experienced.
“We comfort others with the comfort we ourselves have received.”
Not one to waste her sorrows, Janet wrote, Dear God, Why Can’t I Have a Baby? A Companion Guide for Couples on the Infertility Journey. Both Kim’s and Shannon’s stories run through the book, along with forty-five other couples who also share their stories to comfort and encourage others on their infertility journey.
“I wrote the book because I knew that couples longing for a child needed encouragement to trust in God in this path they never chose. The book and the couples who share remind us of God’s promises and presence. It gives an opportunity to explore His answers to our sorrowful ‘Whys?’”
Janet also wrote Dear God, They Say It’s Cancer: A Companion Guide for Women on the Breast Cancer Journey. The book resulted from her own diagnosis of breast cancer and how she longed to have this kind of book on hand during her journey. Both books are a mentor, record keeper, journal, devotional, prayer guide, and a friend. They have a section she calls “Sanity Tools” to keep records in one place.
Janet is currently writing the third in the series, Dear God, He’s Home! and welcomes your stories of life after retirement, medical disability, loss of a job, unemployment, home after military deployment, working out of the home—any circumstance that suddenly finds the husband home every day. Feel free to contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org and your story might end up in Janet’s book!
Janet’s eyes twinkle with Christ’s love as she speaks. “Nothing happens in a believer’s life by accident. God asks us to tell others about the mighty wonders and works we’ve seen Him do in our lives and in the lives of those who open their hearts to Him.”
Friends, as you know one of the main themes in my gift book, “A Friend in the Storm,” is “God never wastes pain.” Perhaps you’ve considered how God could use you to help others, but you haven’t fully stepped out in way you’d like. Janet and I encourage you to comfort others with the comfort you have received. Don’t ask the Lord to guide your footsteps if you’re not willing to move your feet. Maybe today is the day to reach out to that hurting person in your life. Maybe write that book or article you’ve been thinking about. Maybe start that talk or website.
You can see one of the ways God’s helping me help others through my website www.AFriendintheStorm.com. While there, feel free to sign up for my free monthly e-letter. Janet invites you to do the same at www.womantowomanmentoring.com.
Janet lives with her husband Dave in the mountains of Idaho and is now “Grammie” to eleven grandchildren!
Friends, nothing pleases God as much as when we love other people. Would you please join me for a moment in order to pray for a couple you know who is struggling with infertility? Thank you!
Dear Heavenly Father, I lift up ………today. I ask that You please do a miracle in their lives like You did for Janet. You are the great giver of life. Please lead them in the way they should go. If they’re considering adoption, please open that door, and may everything go smoothly. Encourage their hearts and help me to be a good friend in their storm. Amen!
Janet and I would like to give away a free copy of Dear God, Why Can’t I Have a Baby? A Companion Guide for Couples on the Infertility Journey AND a free copy of A Friend in the Storm. Simply leave a comment and we’ll randomly pick a couple winners! Thank you!